Personal Management Skills:
Secrets of Personhood

The third component of the Shambhala Pathway is the next advanced step in personal management which also increases your ability to powerfully influence others. This section is restricted because these advanced skills can be misused. Martial Arts Black Belts have learned that with increased power comes increased personal responsibility, so these pages are only available to registered Shambhala Black Belt members, who will exercise good judgment in their use.

ANCIENT SHAMBHALA WISDOM

Secrets of Personhood*

He is playing masculine.

She is playing feminine.

He is playing masculine because she is playing feminine.

She is playing feminine because he is playing masculine.

He is playing the kind of man that he thinks the kind of woman she is playing ought to admire.

She is playing the kind of woman that she thinks the kind of man he is playing ought to desire.

If he were not playing masculine, he might well be as feminine as she is – except when she is playing very feminine.

If she were not playing feminine, she might well be as masculine as he is – except when he is playing very masculine.

So he plays harder.

And she plays … softer.

He wants to make sure that she is not more masculine than he.

She wants to make sure that he is not more feminine than she.

He, therefore, must curtail the femininity in himself.

She, therefore, must curtail the masculinity in herself.

She admires him for the masculinity in him that she must curtail in herself.

He desires her for the femininity in her that he must curtail in himself.

He desires her for her femininity, which is his femininity, but which he can never lay claim to.

She admires him for his masculinity, which is her masculinity, but which she can never lay claim to.

He, coveting her femininity, decides to punish her.

She, coveting his masculinity, decides to punish him.

He puts down her femininity and becomes more aggressively masculine.

She feigns disgust at his masculinity and becomes more fastidiously feminine.

In the process, he is becoming less and less what he wants to be.

She is becoming less and less what she wants to be.

But now he is more manly than ever.

And she is more womanly than ever.

Her femininity, growing more dependently supine, becomes contemptible.

His masculinity, growing more oppressively domineering, becomes intolerable.

If he were to acquire her femininity, he would be yielding to contemptible incompetence.

If she were to acquire his masculinity, she would be seen as intolerably overbearing.

She is stifling under the triviality of her femininity.

The world is groaning beneath the terrors of his masculinity.

He is playing masculine.

She is playing feminine.

Personhood is knowing you are both.

* This material is a collection of many peoples wisdom, the original author is unknown.